DeAnna picked Jesse the 'rad' snowboarder on Bachelorette’ finale

DeAnna Pappas chose professional snowboarder Jesse Csincsak, 26, over account executive and single father Jason Mesnik, 31, on the finale of "The Bachelorette," season four.

She. Is. NUTS.
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Jesse is rad, for sure, and it's cool that she picked the quirky, different guy, but is he ready to be her husband, the father of her kids?

The signs were there, though: She was so disappointed when her dad and siblings didn't immediately take to Jesse. She crossed her legs toward Jesse when sitting between both bachelors during the SECOND family meeting. She was quoted in a teaser as saying she was letting someone go who would be perfect for her.

Oh well. At least she's happy.

Poor sweet puppy Jason and his adorable son, Ty. His ex-wife left him. DeAnna's family loved him. His family loved her. Is she pulling a Brad?

DeAnna to Jason: "I would be the luckiest person in the world to be with you. I just can't because my heart is somewhere else."

Jason in limo, looking shell-shocked. Just speechless, with that ring box in his hands. "I'm completely shocked. ... I feel like I'm a good enough guy who cares about people. ... I was so ready to be in love again. I was SO ready. It hurts to be so close to somebody. .. .She wanted something that I couldn't offer her. She wanted this alternative world. Or she thinks she wants it. You have safety and security you want to live on the edge. You live on the edge you want safety and security. ... I've had a huge hole in my life for years. ... If someone can look at me and see the safety but see the fun and safety side...She got me hurt again. I've had my body armor since my ex left me. I thought it was coming down. Now it's up. The only for sure thing I have is my little boy."

He's an angel! Let him be enough. For now.

Now waiting for Jesse to get out of limo...

DeAnna in voice-over: "I am extremely confident about the man that I have chosen. I know that it's the right one. My connection with Jesse is so strong. I feel like I cannot live without him. ... I see a life that is full of love, excitement. He's someone that gets me. He's someone that makes me want to be a better person. ... Today, I am ending up with my soul mate. I found the man of my dreams."


Jesse in voice-over: "She's the one person I can't live without. ... She's my soul mate."

Jesse to DeAnna: "When I first came into this I never would've believed that this process was real. ... When I look at you, the word that always pops into my mind is 'forever.' ... I truly believe you are my soul mate."

Reaches into pocket. Gets down on one knee.

Jesse: "DeAnna Marie Pappas, will you spend forever with me?"

DeAnna: "Yes!"

He seems awfully calm.

DeAnna: "I would not be OK if you were not in my life. I love you. I've waited so long to say that. I love you."

Jesse: "I love you too."

DeAnna: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you."

Jesse: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you. There are so many things I want to share with you."

DeAnna to camera: "I can't believe I'm going to marry the guy with the pink shoelaces!"

Opening statements

DeAnna is the jury and the two men on trial for her love summarized their background in a few words at the top of the finale. Here is a short sample.


Jason: “I came on this journey to find true love. I’m just a regular guy. I’m just a single dad out of Seattle … when I got married I thought it was forever and I was wrong.”

(A note on this – where is the ex? Is she in Seattle? Does she have joint custody? I know we learn later that she left him and started a life with someone else. Grr.)


Jesse: “I am the skinny white kid snowboarder … I feel blessed that I’m still here. As far as I was concerned D was so far out of my league I didn’t think I had a chance.”

(A note on this – are you ever going to be ready to relate to her as a peer, an equal, a fellow human being to grow with for life, not a hot chick to ogle at like a teen from “Superbad”?)

Jason meets the parents

We head to DeAnna's house in Newnan, Georgia.

DeAnna: “Today is the most important day in the entire process. … It’s very important to me that my family accepts them.”

Family loved Brad. Not going to be the same way again.

So once again, Brad is directing this show.

They're fixin' to cut Jesse’s hair already! Haven’t even met him yet.


Jason The Excited Puppy shows up first with flowers and a basket with wine. Actually two bouquets of flowers.

Sister asks: “You know what happened with Brad, right?”

We all do!

Ex-wife decided to leave and start a life with someone else. Ohh. Is this new info? That makes me like him more.

Dad says whoever it is has to move to Georgia. But what about Ty in Seattle?

Sister pulls him aside since she’s worried about DeAnna getting her heart broken again. It’s the Brad brat speech.

DeAnna talks to brother.

DeAnna: “I know he’s on the same page as me. He wants to get married. He wants a family. (Not just Ty). I love that.

Brother: “I want to know what gives you the wow factor.”

DeAnna: “If you could see him with his son, your heart would melt.”

Sister: “Do you think you’re in love with her?”
Jason: “Absolutely.”

Sister: “Do you think you could take care of her (not financially)?”
Jason: “Absolutely.”

Jason to Dad: “I am in love with your daughter.”

Dad: “She’s an unbelievable young lady.”

Jason: “I want to get your permission to propose to her.”

Dad: “Nobody’s ever had the guts to ask me before… I would expect it, No. 1.”

So Brad didn’t ask him – splitter!

Dad to Jason: “She really thinks you’re a special guy. And from what I’ve seen I think you are. … If she chooses you, you have my blessing.”

Dad to camera: “Jason really impressed me. He’s the kind of guy that has it all together. … I think he’s a great pick for my daughter.”

Jesse meets the parents

DeAnna keeps saying how “different” Jesse is and how she never in a million years would pick someone like him. She needs to stop sounding like she’s ashamed of him.

And he needs to stop saying “rad.”

Brother: “Jesse was nervous. You could hear it in his voice when he walked through the door. He shook my hand his palm was sweaty.”

Dad talks to Jesse about snowboarding.

Dad: When you become as old as I am and you can’t snowboard anymore, how much longer are you going to be competitive?

Jesse talks to camera. Does not answer question.

Dad: Have you been in serious relations

Jesse: I lived with serious girlfriend for two years.

What happened?

We grew apart.

Sister saw more with Jason. DeAnna defends him, says he’s nervous and they’re not meeting real Jesse.

Sister: do you see yourself setting down with him, having family?

Dad: I would expect regular visits to Atlanta?

Sister: I feel like I don’t really know Jesse yet … It probably is because he’s nervous.

He was there three hours talking to the family but he was so nervous no one felt they met him.

DeAnna’s decided they may not be accepting of him because he’s so different from her regular guys. I don’t think that’s quite it.

Dad: Both said they are falling in love with you, but it was the way they said it. It felt more heartfelt from Jason.

DeAnna: “Did Jesse ask your permission to marry me?”

Dad: “No.”

DeAnna looks confused, sad and disappointed. I think she feels more for Jesse. Hmm… So it’s the old safety vs. adventure debate.

Both guys go to ‘Big Fat Greek Party’

More family to meet!

Ya ya is going to pick him for her.

Jesse is first. Brought a big plant.

About to talk to family. Doorbell rings. Yep, it’s Jason The Excited Puppy.

Poor Jesse. “It was a little intense. It was another competition almost.”

Yeah, I’m with him. That’s a bit much to ask. Awkward!

Jason is just Mr. America. Hard to tell what he really thinks.

Body language alert: Both holding her hand, Jason has arm around her, but she is crossing her legs toward Jesse.

Pros and cons

Jesse: She’s totally worth it. It’s definitely someone I could see spending the rest of my life with.

Jason: Cons, I’m probably not nearly as rad as Jesse.

Poor Jason, he’s already been left by a wife. It’s not fair to put him in this position.

Jesse in the kitchen with Mom. Jason one-ups him by name-dropping a Greek dish.

Jesse bumping knuckles with the grandparents. “Hit it and blow it up.” HA HA HA.

Jason’s intentions, spelled to … grandparents?: I can tell you in all honesty. I didn’t expect to be sitting here telling you about DeAnna. She is everything I have ever wanted in a partner.

Sister and sister-in-law talking to Jesse about not breaking her heart.

Ya Ya picks Jason.

Jesse: I caught myself crying twice in the past week over your sister. I don’t know why, I’m so into her it hurts.

Sister starts to cry a little.

Sister-in-law: It just seemed like he was a cool guy. … He was really thinking about the questions we asked him.

Sister-in-law’s advice: “Be who you are and rock it out.”

Now Jesse pulls Dad aside.

“If she does choose me, I would like to propose to her. I guess I’m asking for your blessing and your permission.”

Hmm… do you think the producers gave him a prod?

Dad: “Are you ready?”

Jesse: “I’ve been thinking, asked Dad how did you know it was Mom? He said when it’s time you know … When I met DeAnna my palms sweat and I got butterflies. … Dad said my palms used to sweat and I got butterflies when I met your mom.”

Dad hesitates, gives speech, but ultimately offers his blessing and good luck.

Dad: “Just remember one thing, when you have my beautiful daughter with you, you keep your hair short.”

Jesse said they’d talk about it and he’d go to a stylist. They “nugged” (is that the knuckle thing?) and of course it was “rad.”

This guy is totally my brother Jeff circa 1991.

Drinking with the family. Both guys upset about having to share DeAnna. Jesse says he wants the whole cupcake. Hmm.

But he did open up more, good for him. I still think Jason is better for DeAnna, but Jesse is good people.

Jason “tricked” into leaving first so Jesse gets final hug. So fourth grade, this whole group date.

DeAnna asks sister and sister-in-law point blank who they think she should be with.

Sister-in-law seems to pick Jesse. She thinks if she picks Jason she’ll be fast-forwarding her life five years.

Sister sees a difference when she’s with both. DeAnna doesn’t seem as comfortable with Jesse, she says. Jesse only 26, she doesn’t seem to think he’s ready.

Sister-in-law: “Do you see one of them being the father of your future children more than the other one?”

DeAnna not sure who she is picking. I’m sorry but I’ve always thought all the Bachelors and Bachelorettes should know by now.


(At this point we head to Grand Bahama Island for surprise visit from Jeremy. See related story for more on that.)

Date with Jesse

DeAnna and Jesse go flying.

Taking Jesse to secluded island to hang out all day. (Do they get extended leave from work to do this? Or do they take vacation time?)

Instead of spending idyllic vacation time together, why not put them on “The Baby Borrowers” to see what they would be like under stress? On imperfect days people are very, very different.

Jesse created a book of thoughts to give to DeAnna. That was very sweet.

Jesse: “I just want you to know I’ve never been more sure of anything in my life. I’m ready to settle down. I’m that guy that can make you happy for the rest of your life.”

Date with Jason

Once again, the puppy runs to see her.

Going deep-sea diving. Swimming with sharks.

DeAnna: Jason was more comfortable than I was. He was being the man, showing me everything was going to be OK.

That’s the kind of guy she wants. I do think that’s more Jason than Jesse.

Jason made her a board game himself. He’s really good at one-upping Jesse. But will it be enough?

She did say she had no more questions for him. She seems comfortable with him and loves his romantic side. He is sweet and thoughtful.

He said he is perfect for her. A preview said she got rid of someone who was perfect for her. Is she getting rid of him? Oooh I hope not. She doesn’t seem to be going for the “perfect” types (see Jeremy).

Closing arguments and rings

I could spend the rest of my life with either of these guys.

Jason makes me feel safe.

Jesse is such an exciting person.

The difference between me in this moment and Brad in that moment is I’ve found someone that I love.


Guys check out rings.


Jason wants ring that expresses DeAnna’s unique perspective on world.

Jesse so nervous, his stomach in knots, literally doubled over. It’s just ring shopping, man!

On her choice: "He's someone that gets me. He is someone that makes me want to be a better person."

And that person is...

Not Jason, since he's in the first limo.

Oh, poor Excited Puppy Jason. I feel so bad for him. His ex-wife leaves him and now DeAnna dumps him. At least he has Ty.

I know I've already nominated Fred, but can Jason be the backup "Bachelor" next season?


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